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The Importance of Setting Boundaries before and during your first date

The Importance of Setting Boundaries

First Date Tips & Conversation Ideas

We love to talk about first dates and we also love to go on first dates - the butterflies, the anxiety, the excitement, and the anticipation. It is something you look forward to when you start talking to someone new, and not only talking, but also connecting with them.. You&#39;ve got the logistics sorted—time, place, and maybe even a backup plan, Plan A, B, C and even D. But here&#39;s the kicker: have you thought about setting boundaries? Yup, we&#39;re diving into the nitty-gritty of pre-date groundwork to ensure you&#39;re stepping into that rendezvous with confidence and clarity.
Setting boundaries before a first date might sound a tad unconventional, and maybe even too much work (it isn&#39;t). After all, you barely know the person, and boundaries seem reserved for serious relationships, right? Wrong. It&#39;s all about ensuring you know where your comfort zone lies before diving headfirst into the unknown. So, let&#39;s unpack the what, why, and how of setting those all-important boundaries.
You are your own Boss:
First things first, let&#39;s get one thing straight: your boundaries, your rules. No one else gets a say in what works for you. Boundaries are as personal as it gets, and you call the shots. Plus, they&#39;re flexible—what feels right today might shift tomorrow.
Consider Your Comfort Zone:
Feeling a bit lost on where to begin? Ask yourself some very important and necessary questions. How long do you want the date to last? Are you cool with one-on-one hangouts? Do you want to meet in public or private (we advise the public for the first few dates), What&#39;s your comfort level with physical intimacy? (Consent is very important, and your no is no, no matter what). And hey, don&#39;t forget about the logistics—think about where, when, and how you want to meet up. Remember to hold ‘VEX MONEY’ and have an out for when you need it. 
Then, there are the emotional safety boundaries. Think about topics you&#39;d rather steer clear of and what you&#39;re comfortable sharing. Remember, it&#39;s all about safeguarding your emotional well-being.
Speak Up Before the Date:
Consider this your golden opportunity to lay the groundwork for a stress-free date. Having a chat about boundaries beforehand not only helps you decide if you&#39;re game for that in-person meet-up but also ensures you&#39;re both on the same page. Feeling unsure about how to broach the topic? Keep it casual and low-key. Drop hints about your boundaries when making plans or gently steer the conversation in that direction.
But, Be Ready to Pivot:
Plans change, and so can your boundaries. It&#39;s all part of the dating dance. If you’re a fan of the show FRIENDS, you should understand when to PIVOT. Trust yourself, and don&#39;t be afraid to adapt as the situation evolves.
Respect Is Key:
Remember, boundaries go both ways. Just as you expect your date to respect your boundaries, you should reciprocate. Keep an eye out for signs that they&#39;re uncomfortable or hesitant, and be ready to course-correct if needed. And if your date isn&#39;t willing to respect your boundaries, consider canceling or excusing yourself from the date.
By setting clear boundaries and communicating them effectively, you&#39;re not just ensuring a smoother dating experience—you&#39;re also showing up for yourself in the best possible way. So, go forth, date, and remember: boundaries are your BFFs in the quest for love.

FIRST DATE PREP 101

How Long Should I Wait for Chemistry to Develop?

Chemistry in Sugar Daddy Relationships: Find Your Match

In the world of online dating, the question of chemistry often looms large. Many wonder: Is chemistry important in online dating? While some argue that virtual connections lack the same spark as in-person encounters, others believe that meaningful connections can still be forged through screens. And the ultimate question is how long do we wait for chemistry to develop?
It&#39;s a common question, especially when you&#39;re navigating the complexities of modern online dating. Perhaps you&#39;ve spent years chasing the highs of intense chemistry, only to realize that it doesn&#39;t always translate to long-term compatibility. So, what should you do when you find yourself with a guy who seems perfect on paper, but you&#39;re just not feeling the spark?
Understanding Chemistry vs. Compatibility
Chemistry, that electric connection that ignites passion and excitement, is often seen as the hallmark of a promising relationship. However, it&#39;s important to remember that chemistry can be temporary and even misleading. It&#39;s like a firework—bright and intense, but it doesn&#39;t last forever.
On the other hand, compatibility, the foundation of a lasting partnership, involves shared values, mutual respect, and genuine enjoyment of each other&#39;s company. It&#39;s the glue that holds a relationship together long after the initial sparks have faded.
Navigating the Grey Areas
So, should you wait for chemistry to develop, or is it time to move on? The answer lies in understanding the nuances of your own feelings and desires.
If you&#39;re dating someone online who ticks all the boxes but you&#39;re not feeling the spark, it&#39;s essential to trust your gut. While chemistry can grow over time, it shouldn&#39;t feel like a chore or an obligation. If you&#39;re constantly waiting for that spark to ignite, it may be a sign that the chemistry simply isn&#39;t there.
Balancing Chemistry and Compatibility
While chemistry is important, it&#39;s not the sole indicator of a successful relationship. In fact, prioritizing compatibility over chemistry can lead to more fulfilling and sustainable partnerships in the long run. Which means, look for ways you are compatible, instead of trying to find a spark that can fade away. 
Ultimately, it&#39;s about finding the right balance between chemistry and compatibility. You should feel a genuine connection with your partner, both emotionally and physically, but it&#39;s also essential to share common goals, values, and interests.
Trusting Your Instincts
When it comes down to it, only you can decide what&#39;s best for you. Trust your instincts and don&#39;t settle for a relationship that doesn&#39;t fulfill you emotionally and financially.
Remember, it&#39;s far better to be single than to settle for a relationship that leaves you feeling unsatisfied. Keep your standards high, and don&#39;t be afraid to walk away from a situation that isn&#39;t meeting your needs.
In the end, finding lasting love is about more than just chemistry—it&#39;s about finding someone whose company you truly enjoy and who brings out the best in you. So, take your time, trust the process, and don&#39;t be afraid to hold out for the kind of connection you truly deserve.

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10 Ways to Take Control of Your Love Life

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So, you&#39;ve found yourself caught in the tangled web of breadcrumbing—a frustrating dating phenomenon where someone leads you on with intermittent attention and flirtation, but never commits to a genuine relationship. It&#39;s enough to make anyone want to throw their phone out the window and swear off dating altogether. 
Fear not, my friends, because I&#39;m here to guide you through the treacherous terrain of breadcrumbing with grace and dignity. 
Here are 10 ways to handle a breadcrumber like a boss:

Recognize the Signs:
The first step in dealing with a breadcrumber is recognizing the signs. Are they always vague about making plans? Do they only reach out when it&#39;s convenient for them? Trust your instincts and don&#39;t ignore the red flags. (Check previous blogpost for this)
Set Boundaries:
Once you&#39;ve identified the breadcrumbing behavior, it&#39;s time to set some boundaries. Let the breadcrumber know that you&#39;re not interested in being strung along and that you expect clear communication and commitment if they want to continue interacting with you.
Communicate Your Needs: Don&#39;t be afraid to speak up about what you want and need from the relationship. If you&#39;re looking for something more serious and the breadcrumber isn&#39;t willing to meet you halfway, it may be time to reevaluate the situation.
Don&#39;t Play Their Game:
Breadcrumbers thrive on attention and validation, so don&#39;t play into their game. Refuse to be their backup option or emotional crutch. Focus on yourself and your own well-being instead of waiting around for crumbs of affection.
Keep Your Options Open:
While it&#39;s tempting to hold out hope that the breadcrumber will come around, it&#39;s important to keep your options open. Don&#39;t put all your eggs in one basket—explore other dating opportunities and don&#39;t settle for less than you deserve.
Practice Self-Care:
Dealing with a breadcrumber can take a toll on your self-esteem and emotional well-being. Make self-care a priority by indulging in activities that bring you joy and fulfillment, whether it&#39;s spending time with friends, pursuing hobbies, or practicing mindfulness.
Trust Your Gut:
If something doesn&#39;t feel right in the relationship, trust your gut instinct. Don&#39;t ignore your intuition in favor of wishful thinking or false hope. Remember, you deserve someone who values you and treats you with respect.
Know When to Walk Away:
Ultimately, you have the power to decide what you will and won&#39;t tolerate in a relationship. If the breadcrumber isn&#39;t willing to meet your needs or invest in a genuine connection, it may be time to walk away and find someone who is.
Seek Support:
Don&#39;t be afraid to reach out for support from friends, family, or a therapist if you&#39;re struggling to cope with the emotional rollercoaster of breadcrumbing. Talking to someone can provide clarity and perspective on the situation.
Stay True to Yourself:
Above all, stay true to yourself and your values. Don&#39;t compromise your self-worth for the sake of someone who isn&#39;t willing to give you the love and respect you deserve. Trust that the right person will come along when the time is right, and in the meantime, focus on building a fulfilling life for yourself.
So there you have it—10 ways to handle a breadcrumber like a pro. Remember, you are worthy of love and respect, and you deserve someone willing to give you their full attention and commitment. Don&#39;t settle for anything less than you deserve. Know where to find that special someone? Of course you do. Members of our community are waiting for you.

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10 Signs You're Being Breadcrumbed

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When you’re dating in this world of ours, especially as a Lagosian, there&#39;s a phenomenon that&#39;s all too familiar to many: breadcrumbing. It&#39;s a frustrating experience where someone keeps you on the hook with sporadic attention and flirtation, but never fully commits to a genuine relationship. It’s like one long painful talking stage. Almost like a situationship. Like following a trail of breadcrumbs that never leads to a satisfying destination, being breadcrumbed can leave you feeling confused, frustrated, and emotionally drained.
But fear not, because awareness is the first step to reclaiming your power and navigating the murky waters of breadcrumbing with clarity and confidence. 
So, without further ado, here are 10 signs that you may be the victim of breadcrumbing:


Inconsistent Communication:
One of the telltale signs of breadcrumbing is inconsistent communication. Your interactions may be sporadic, with long gaps between messages or calls, you’re always on read but never really responded to - leaving you wondering where you stand.
Vague Plans:
When it comes to making plans, the breadcrumber is a master of vagueness. They may hint at future get-togethers or exciting adventures but never follow through with concrete plans. They will plan an entire dinner date and go ghost a week to the proposed date, only to show up maybe 2 - 3 weeks later with a sad excuse and apology.
Hot and Cold Behavior:
One moment, they&#39;re showering you with attention and affection; the next, they&#39;re distant and aloof. This hot and cold behavior is a classic breadcrumbing tactic designed to keep you guessing.
Minimal Effort:
While you put in the effort to maintain the relationship, the breadcrumber&#39;s contributions are minimal at best. They may send the occasional text or like your social media posts, but they rarely go out of their way to make meaningful connections.
Flirtatious Banter:
Breadcrumbers are skilled at keeping things light and playful with flirtatious banter. They may shower you with compliments and sweet nothings, leading you to believe there&#39;s something more between you. But once you get hooked, they disappear. 
Excuses for Lack of Commitment:
When confronted about their lack of commitment, breadcrumbers are quick to come up with excuses. They may blame their busy schedule, past relationships, or personal issues, but the underlying message is clear: they&#39;re not ready to fully invest in a relationship. And they are great at using manipulative speak in conversations to sway you. 
Avoidance of Serious Topics:
Conversations about the future or defining the relationship are met with evasion and deflection from the breadcrumber. They prefer to keep things casual and surface-level, avoiding any discussions that could lead to commitment. So when you ask “what are we?”, they may say something along the lines of “we are building something amazing”. Vagueness is their motto.
Limited Availability:
Despite their apparent interest, breadcrumbers always seem to be unavailable when you need them most. They may cancel plans last minute or give vague excuses for why they can&#39;t spend time together. And they will always be difficult to reach. They only emerge when they want to. 
Lack of Follow-Through:
Promises of future outings or romantic gestures rarely materialize with a breadcrumber. They may talk a big game but fail to follow through with actions that demonstrate genuine interest and commitment.
Gut Feeling of Uncertainty:
Perhaps the most telling sign of breadcrumbing is your gut feeling of uncertainty. Deep down, you know something isn&#39;t right, but you cling to the hope that things will change. Trust your instincts and don&#39;t ignore the warning signs.
So there you have it—10 signs that you may be the victim of breadcrumbing. If any of these resonate with you, it may be time to reassess the relationship and prioritize your emotional well-being. Remember, you deserve someone willing to give you their full attention and commitment, not just breadcrumbs of affection.
Look out for our next post where we will be discussing how to handle a breadcrumber!

Navigating the Breadcrumb Trail

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10 REASONS WHY THE MAN YOU LIKE IS NOT INTERESTED IN YOU

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First of all, what is Breadcrumbing? Breadcrumbing is a manipulative dating behavior where someone leads another on with occasional attention or flirtation without any intention of committing to a real relationship. It involves giving just enough to keep someone interested but never fulfilling their expectations. 
This can include sporadic texts, vague promises, or flirtatious interactions without follow-through. It&#39;s emotionally damaging and creates false hope, leaving the victim confused and frustrated.
You know the feeling. You&#39;ve had a few amazing dates with a guy, and you&#39;re convinced there&#39;s a spark. The conversations flow effortlessly, and the chemistry is undeniable—you&#39;re practically floating on cloud nine. But then, out of nowhere, his texts become sporadic, his responses terse. You start to wonder, &quot;Why is he texting me if he&#39;s not interested?&quot; He is breadcrumbing you!
Ah, the joys of modern dating—the endless guessing games and mixed signals that leave us scratching our heads. But fear not, because I&#39;m here to decode the mystery for you.
Understanding the Breadcrumbers
Dating should be simple, right? You like each other, you date; if not, you move on. But in today&#39;s digital age, and especially in Lagos (Yoruba dem.. sorry, men, we are looking at you) it&#39;s rarely that straightforward. Our brains are wired for connection, and sometimes, that wiring leads to mixed signals in our digital interactions. And we crave this and give our all to someone, unknown to us is a breadcrumber. 
Understanding breadcrumbers involves recognizing their manipulative tactics of providing intermittent attention to keep someone interested without genuine commitment, often leaving the other person feeling confused and emotionally drained.
Why Is He Texting Me If He&#39;s Not Interested?
Let&#39;s cut through the confusion and get to the koko of the matter. Here are the no-nonsense reasons he&#39;s texting you even though he&#39;s not interested ergo, breadcrumbing you:
He Needs an Ego Boost: You&#39;re his confidence booster, someone who strokes his ego and makes him feel good about himself.
You&#39;re in the Friend-Zone: You&#39;ve landed in the dreaded friend-zone, where he sees you as nothing more than a buddy.
You&#39;re His #2: He likes you, but you&#39;re not his top priority. He&#39;s keeping you around while he explores other options.
He&#39;s a Player: He&#39;s juggling multiple women and stringing you along as a backup plan. He wants to keep his options open. 
You&#39;re a Booty Call: You&#39;re his late-night option for a casual hookup, nothing more.
He&#39;s Not Sure What He Wants: He&#39;s indecisive and unsure about his feelings, leaving you in a state of perpetual confusion.
You&#39;re Day-Dreaming: You&#39;re reading too much into his texts, dissecting every word for hidden meaning. Putting him on a pedestal and creating a false reality for you both. 
He Likes the Attention: You give him attention and validation without asking for anything in return. He is manipulating your emotions and trying to keep you hooked.
He&#39;s Bored: You&#39;re a filler for his boredom, someone to pass the time until something better comes along. And trust me, they will come along.
He Has a Flirty Personality: He enjoys flirting and banter, but he&#39;s not interested in anything serious.
Feeling enlightened yet? Keep these in mind the next time you find yourself questioning his intentions. Remember, you deserve someone genuinely interested and invested in you. Don&#39;t settle for anything less. Stay tuned to find out signs of breadcrumbing and how to handle it!

THE BREADCUMBERS

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10 Things You Should Know About the Woman You're Dating

10 Things to Know About Sugar Dating

So, you&#39;ve found yourself a special someone, huh? Congratulations! But before you start planning your happily ever after, there are a few crucial things you need to know about the woman you&#39;re dating. After all, understanding her is the key to a successful relationship. So, grab a seat, take notes, and let&#39;s dive into the top 10 things you should know about her:
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HER PASSIONS AND DREAMS
What makes her eyes light up? What sets her soul on fire? Understanding her passions and dreams is like getting a backstage pass to her heart. Whether she dreams of traveling the world or making a difference in her community, knowing what drives her will deepen your connection like nothing else.
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HER LOVE LANGUAGE
Love isn&#39;t one-size-fits-all, and neither are the ways we express it. Take the time to learn her love language—whether it&#39;s words of affirmation, acts of service, or quality time. By speaking her love language, you&#39;ll show her just how much you care in a way that truly resonates with her.
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HER DEEPEST FEARS
We all have our skeletons in the closet, and understanding hers is crucial to building trust and intimacy. Whether she&#39;s afraid of failure, rejection, or spiders, knowing her deepest fears and insecurities will help you be her rock when she needs it most.
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HER RELATIONSHIP WITH HER FAMILY
They say you can tell a lot about a person by the way they treat their family, and it&#39;s true. Whether she&#39;s a mama&#39;s girl, a daddy&#39;s girl, or something in between, understanding her relationship with her family will give you invaluable insights into who she is and where she comes from.
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HER COMMUNICATION SKILLS
Communication is the lifeblood of any relationship, so it&#39;s essential to understand her communication style. Is she a straight shooter who tells it like it is, or does she prefer to beat around the bush? Knowing how she communicates will help you navigate any rough waters that come your way.
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HER GOALS AND AMBITIONS
Where does she see herself in five years? What are her career goals, her personal goals, her bucket list goals? Does she want to travel the world? Does she want to explore new degrees? Understanding her goals and ambitions will help you support her on her journey and be her biggest cheerleader every step of the way.
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HER PET PEEVES
Let&#39;s face it—we all have our pet peeves. Whether it&#39;s people who chew with their mouths open or drivers who don&#39;t use their turn signals, knowing her pet peeves will help you avoid stepping on any landmines and keep the peace in your relationship.
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HER FAVORITE THINGS
From her favorite movie to her favorite ice cream flavor, knowing her favorite things is like having a roadmap to her heart. Whether you surprise her with a movie marathon of her favorite films or whip up her favorite meal, showing her that you pay attention to the little things will melt her heart every time.
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HER PAST RELATIONSHIPS
They say the past is prologue, and that&#39;s especially true when it comes to relationships. Understanding her past relationships—what went wrong, what went right, and what she learned from them—will help you avoid making the same mistakes and build a stronger, more resilient partnership together.
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HER VALUES AND BELIEFS
Last but certainly not least, it&#39;s essential to understand her values and beliefs. Whether it&#39;s her religious beliefs, her political beliefs, or her moral compass, knowing what she stands for will help you build a relationship that&#39;s grounded in shared values and mutual respect.
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So there you have it—10 things you absolutely must know about the woman you&#39;re dating. Armed with this knowledge, you&#39;ll be well-equipped to navigate the ups and downs of dating and build a relationship that stands the test of time. Happy dating!

Opening up the Pandora’s Box

 Learn how to showcase your personality, attract meaningful connections, and start engaging chats with captivating images.

Make a great first impression through your images

Photo Tips for Sugar Daddy Profiles: Capture Attention

When you open a dating website or app for the first time, the first thing you notice before anything else are the photos of the members and that&#39;s where your focus lies. 98% of the time, the photo is the reason you begin or refuse to begin a conversation with a potential interest. So we know and you know profile and gallery photos are very important. The problem is: not a lot of people know how to take great photos for their dating profiles, and they wonder why no one has sent them any messages or liked their profile at least. This is where we come in. We have done our extensive research and come up with 8 great tips to help you take great photos for your dating profile so you don&#39;t miss out on amazing dating potentials. Each key is important and non skippable, so pay attention and apply it to your next photo taking session. You will thank us later. 
Lighting is Key: Choose natural/sunlight or well-lit areas to capture your best features. Natural light is the best kind of light to use for a great profile photo, because it is soft and it helps capture your glow. Avoid harsh shadows that can distort your appearance. Avoid using hazy or phone filters as well. Ring Lights can be harsh on your skin, or completely remove gorgeous features so if you are indoors, use soft lights - well lit but soft, that won&#39;t overshadow your features. 
Dress to Impress: Wear an outfit that makes you feel confident and reflects your personal style. Choose colors that complement your complexion and make you shine. Include fun colors in your outfit choices as well. Leave black for funerals. Clothes that let your figure do the talking are welcome too. Remember to avoid anything that will ruin your photo or reduce your appearance, for example Sunglasses and huge hats. Avoid shirtless and topless photos as well as bikini photos, you don&#39;t want to show too much or be crass and turn off a member from sending you a message. You want your outfit to speak well of you. 
Focus on You, and Your Background: Ensure that you are the main subject of the photo. No group photos. Avoid overcrowding the frame with distracting backgrounds or too many people. It&#39;s best whoever sees your photo, knows exactly who they are texting. Make sure you are the only one in the frame, you do not need to include your friends or colleagues, don&#39;t confuse your potential love interest. And as for Backgrounds, always make sure your background is simple, fresh and luxurious. NO BATHROOM PHOTOS OR SELFIES. It doesn&#39;t matter if it is Radisson’s restroom, absolutely no bathroom photos are welcome. Lastly, make sure you are in a clean, nice environment with a fairly busy background (even better if the background is not busy at all.) 
Keep it Current: Make sure your photos are recent and accurately represent how you currently look. Transparency is important in building a connection online. We don&#39;t want photos from 5/10 years ago, leave it in the past where it is, we are not taking you back. Keep your photos current (Within the last year). Let it represent who you are at the moment, not you from a few years ago. Let it not be a case of mistaken identity or horrible catfish stories. We definitely don&#39;t want that. Show off your current self, that&#39;s what your potential love interest wants to see. 
Show Variety: Include a mix of close-up shots and full-body photos to give potential matches a well-rounded sense of your appearance. Showcasing your hobbies or interests for example, traveling can also be a great way to spark conversation so you can include vacation photos in your gallery. When you are doing something you love or enjoy, it shows in your photographs. Remember how they say a photograph tells a thousand words? Well, it also shows your thousand feelings and that&#39;s what a potential interest wants to see. Be creative, be fun and most importantly, be yourself. 
No Blurry Photos: Make sure the photos are clear, sharp and well lit. No blurry or hazy photos so your personality shines through. We cannot do anything with blurry photos and once members see a blurry photo, they skip the profile. You definitely do not want that. Also PLEASE make sure to avoid snapchat, facetune, AI and instagram filters. Dont include vague screenshots as well, no one wants to see that. They do not reflect who you are and can make you come off as fake, or even hiding your true personality. You are truly gorgeous without the unnecessary filters and edits. 
Use the Right Angles: Angles are very important in photography. They can make or mar your pictures. You don&#39;t want to take pictures from your torso or atop your head, so make sure you choose the right angles that flatter your appearance and environment. A tip is: Position your camera slightly above eye level for the most flattering angle. Too high and your head may appear small, too low and you risk a double chin. And some of us know we have good sides for photos, so let&#39;s try to remember when we are taking our photos. 
Show your Confidence and Sexiness: Don&#39;t slouch in your photos. Remember to show your gorgeous 32. Smile because it makes you look comfortable, happy, approachable and friendly, relax your eyes because it shows that you are confident and open for a conversation. Let your potential see that you are sexy and confident just from your photo. Carry yourself high. Be joyful. Don&#39;t include photos where you were unhappy or depressed, trust me - we can tell. And if we can, so can a potential interest.. Now we don&#39;t want that, do we?
Following these 8 easy steps will definitely aid in upping your photo game and show your amazing personalities through them. And don&#39;t be scared to take multiple photos, make it a fun photoshoot, have fun with yourself - include different angles, outfits, backgrounds and poses. Remember not to upload multiples of the same photo unto our web app, as it can lead to the system declining them. Show off your fun, well lit, beautiful photos on our site. We can&#39;t wait to see what you come up with and we also can&#39;t wait for you to have meaningful conversations on our website!

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Conversation Starters & Tips for Online dating

Hi there, Sugar Members! We know some of you may be new to the online dating world and some of you may be shy to send that first message to someone you are interested in.
Not to worry, we have worked on a few Fun Ideas for you, so get ready to turn up the heat and break the ice with that special someone! Let&#39;s dive in!
Introduce Yourself: This could go either way but it&#39;s a very good way to break the ice. Don&#39;t just say your name and wait for a response. Don&#39;t do that, you will be ignored. Introduce yourself and add a follow up question. Eg “My name is Femi, I enjoy taking photographs of vintage architecture in Lagos because they are fascinating and tell a lot of stories. What do you think of old Lagos buildings?” The conversation will naturally pick up from there because it shows you are not afraid to be yourself and be genuine. Also it shows proactiveness, and tells them that you are an interesting fellow.
Find Common Ground: Take a peek at their profile and find something interesting to spark up a conversation. Whether they&#39;re into reading, cooking, biking, or nightlife, use their interests as a springboard for conversation. It could even be something you both have in common. Having common interests reduces the tension at the beginning of a conversation and helps you get comfortable with each other. For example, &quot;I noticed you&#39;re into wines! I am too. Any favorites you recommend? I&#39;m a huge fan of dry Reds.&quot; “You’ve got an interesting profile picture/hobby/field of study. Care to tell me a bit about it?” “I have a Lhasa too and they&#39;re the absolute best. What&#39;s your baby&#39;s name?”
Skip the Generic Greetings: Say goodbye to boring &quot;Hey&quot; “Hi” messages and opt for something more engaging. These messages are often ignored because they don&#39;t show any effort or interest. They are bland, boring and overused. Show your personality right off the bat with a playful greeting like, &quot;Apart from being an absolute cutie, what else can you tell me about yourself?” Don&#39;t be shy or afraid to start off interesting and curious. Step out of your comfort zone and show forth that dazzling personality!
Be Direct and Assertive: Confidence is key when it comes to breaking the ice. Nobody wants someone who isn’t direct and honest with their approach. Confidence is sexy. Assertiveness sells. Instead of beating around the bush, be direct and assertive in your approach. Let them know you&#39;re interested and excited to get to know them better. Be genuine, sweet and confident. Let them know where you are at (in the dating world) and what you are looking for. Let them know how much you fancy them and whether they will like to take things a bit further. But be careful, do not be hasty, or pushy. Confidence, not forcefulness.
Weather and Food Talk: Yes, we&#39;re bringing up these! It might seem cliché, but discussing the weather or food can actually be a fun and lighthearted way to kick off a conversation. Everyone enjoys talking about something the other can relate to. Weather for men and Food for women. Don&#39;t ask us why it is food for women. Trust us, it works. Try something like, &quot;I can never understand the weather in Lagos, why is it raining in February?&quot; “I&#39;ve been wondering where to get the best Tiramisu on the island, any idea where?” &quot;How many VI restaurants have you been to?&#39;
Give a Genuine Compliment: We love compliments! Who doesn&#39;t love a good ego boost? Shower your interest with a sincere compliment to start things off on a positive note. Especially if their romance language includes words of affirmation. Whether it&#39;s their charming smile, sense of style, photographs or killer wit, let them know what caught your eye. And do not be creepy about it. And no sexual &quot;compliments&quot;. That is frankly a turn off and a huge red flag!
Politeness is Key: Remember your manners and show genuine interest in your interest or conversation partner. Be polite, attentive, and respectful throughout your interaction, and you&#39;ll set the stage for a delightful conversation. Remember not to cuss, you are having a civilized discussion with a respectful member of the community.
Tell a Joke: Laughter is the ultimate icebreaker, so why not kick things off with a joke or funny opening line? Keep it light and playful to get those chuckles rolling. And laughter makes everyone more comfortable and relaxed, it removes that initial anxiety that&#39;s attached to first conversations. How about, “Do you believe in love at first message, or should I try again?” “Do you like bad girls/boys? Because I’m really bad at dating apps.” Use your own twist, be natural with it and don&#39;t do too much. Also no lewd or creepy jokes.
Plan a Fun Activity: Take the conversation beyond small talk by suggesting a fun activity you could enjoy together. You can send a message talking about things you could do together. Whether it&#39;s trying out a new restaurant, attending a concert or visiting an art gallery. It could be “I noticed you enjoy going to the beach (from your interests/private photos), how about we spend an entire day on the beach sometime next week. I can send my driver to come get you if that&#39;s okay with you.”. 
Start with Pick Up Lines: Put a fresh spin on classic pickup lines to catch their attention and pique their interest. Get creative and tailor your pickup line to their interests or profile for an extra dose of charm. It could be “You&#39;re so fine, you made me forget my pickup line.” “Well, here I am. What are your other two wishes?” It could even be from something you see on their profile, for example: If they&#39;re Christian and it&#39;s on their profile, you could say something like &quot;Jesus turned water to wine, and soon, he&#39;s going to turn you to mine&quot;. You are most definitely going to get a laugh out of that. Make it interesting and lighthearted.
Above all, be authentic and true to yourself. Let your personality shine through in your messages and embrace your unique quirks. 
After all, there&#39;s nothing more attractive than someone who&#39;s genuine and unapologetically themselves. So there you have it, folks – our top tips for breaking the ice and starting a conversation that is refreshing. 
Whether you&#39;re exchanging witty banter or sharing heartfelt stories, remember to have fun and enjoy the journey of getting to know someone new. 
Happy chatting!

Engaging Fun Conversation Starters & Tips

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Introducing sugardaddy.ng: Nigeria's No 1 Elite Dating Site

Nigeria, renowned for its vibrant culture and thriving economy, now presents a unique platform that redefines the way successful individuals connect with glamorous partners.
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Our Values include:
Ethical and Responsible Dating
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The Lost Art of Online Flirting: How to Do It Right

How to Do It Right

Online dating has revolutionized the way we meet people, making it easier than ever to connect with potential partners. But something seems to have gotten lost in the mix: FLIRTING! The subtle art of building tension, creating playfulness, and sparking intrigue often feels like a relic of the past.
These days, conversations frequently jump straight into the deep end, skipping over the delicious build-up that makes flirting so exciting. If you’ve noticed this trend too, don’t worry, it’s not you; it’s the times we live in. But with a little creativity and patience, we can bring back the fun, sexy, and charming ways of online flirting.
Let’s dive into how to rekindle the lost art of digital seduction, one message at a time.
The Flirty Framework: What Works
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<li>Make a Memorable First Impression:
Forget BORING openers like “Hey” or “How’s it going?” If their profile mentions wine, try something quirky like: “Wow, you’re practically a wine sommelier! Have you tried Zobo-infused wine yet? Absolute genius.”
Or if they’re into books:
“Your love for thrillers makes me wonder, what’s your take on plot twists in real life?”
This shows you’ve paid attention to their profile and sets the stage for a fun conversation.
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<li>Build the Banter:
Flirting is all about playfulness. Share a lighthearted compliment, tease a little, or crack a clever joke. If they’re into cooking, ask:
“So, when’s the audition for your cooking show? And do I get to be your taste tester?”
Keep the energy light and engaging. The goal here isn’t to interrogate but to spark curiosity and make them smile.
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<li>Add Layers of Personality:
Want to stand out? Share something personal but not too intense. Talk about how much you love rainy days or your knack for spotting the best coffee spots in town.
“Your love for sunsets reminded me of this spot in Badagry I discovered. Perfect for daydreaming and amazing photos, your kind of place?”
The trick is to reveal just enough to keep them intrigued.
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<li>Use Emojis, But Don’t Go Overboard:
A strategically placed emoji can add flair to your texts:
A winking face 😉 to keep it cheeky.
A cat emoji 🐱 if you’re playing off their pet obsession.
A laughing emoji 😂 to show you’ve got a sense of humor.
Too many emojis, though, and you’ll come off like a middle schooler who just discovered texting.
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<li>Respect Boundaries:
Flirting doesn’t mean pushing limits. If the vibe isn’t mutual, ease off. Never dive into overly personal or sexual topics too soon, it’s a surefire way to kill the mood. Instead, focus on creating a comfortable and fun atmosphere.
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What NOT to Do When Flirting Online
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<li>Don’t Skip the Playfulness:
Jumping straight into “What are you looking for?” or worse, explicit territory, is a no-go. Flirting is about the journey, not the destination. Slow down and enjoy the process.
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<li>Avoid Being Overly Cheesy:
Lines like “Did it hurt when you fell from heaven?” might seem charming in theory, but they usually come across as unoriginal. Authenticity always wins over canned lines.
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<li>Don’t Be Overly Aggressive:
If someone isn’t responding as quickly or enthusiastically as you’d like, take a breath. Desperation isn’t a good look. Respect their time and space, it’ll make you seem confident and secure.
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From Flirting to Connection: When to Take the Next Step
So, you’ve been exchanging flirty messages, and the vibe feels right, how do you know it’s time to move things offline?
Comfort and Trust: If your conversations flow naturally and they’re equally invested in keeping the chat going, it’s a good sign.
Shared Interest in Meeting: Drop a casual suggestion:
“We’ve been talking about sushi nonstop, how about we turn it into a sushi night?”
Go Gradual: If meeting in person feels too soon, suggest a video chat or phone call. This step bridges the gap while keeping things comfortable.
The Joy of Seduction
Flirting isn’t just about finding a partner; it’s about the thrill of connection. Like Kitty Cavalier says:
“Seduction isn’t about the culmination of desire but the game that’s played as desire builds.”
Whether it’s a clever text, a playful tease, or a heartfelt compliment, flirting should be fun for both people involved.
Final Thoughts
Online flirting is an art, and with a little patience and creativity, you can master it. Be genuine, respect boundaries, and most importantly, have fun. After all, it’s not just about where the conversation leads, it’s about enjoying every moment along the way.
So, get out there and charm their socks off, digitally and on Sugardaddy.ng, of course. 😉

The Lost Art of Online Flirting

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Alright, folks, guys and girlies, let&#39;s discuss modern (Lagos) romance from a High-Value woman’s POV. We&#39;re talking about the kind of love that goes beyond flowers and chocolates—it&#39;s all about finding a partner who&#39;s got your back through thick and thin. So, grab your glass of wine and let&#39;s explore why women these days are on the lookout for both a supporter and a partner in their men.
The Rise of the Modern Woman
Picture this: the modern woman struts through life with confidence, ambition, and a killer sense of style. She&#39;s not waiting around for Prince Charming to sweep her off her feet—she&#39;s out there making things happen on her terms. From boardrooms to showrooms, she&#39;s breaking barriers and leaving her mark on the world. A high-value woman. 
Why Support and Empowerment Matter
But here&#39;s the twist: despite her independence, the modern woman craves a partner who&#39;s more than just arm candy. She wants someone who would take care of her financially, mentally, physically, someone who&#39;s there to lift her when she&#39;s feeling down, celebrate her victories, and push her to reach her full potential. Enter the supporter and the partner—the dynamic duo that&#39;s redefining romance in the digital age.
The Supporter: A Modern Love Essential
Gone are the days of the silent partner nodding along to whatever the woman says. Today, the ideal man is her biggest cheerleader, her sounding board, and her partner in crime. He&#39;s there to offer a listening ear, a shoulder to cry on, and a swift kick in the butt when she needs it most. Whether she&#39;s chasing her dreams or dealing with the daily grind, he&#39;s there by her side, ready to lend a hand and crack a joke to lighten the mood.
The Ideal Man: More Than Just a Title
But being her ideal man isn&#39;t just about offering emotional support—it&#39;s about being her partner in crime. He&#39;s the one who&#39;s always up for an adventure, whether it&#39;s trying out a new hobby or planning a spontaneous road trip. He&#39;s the yin to her yang, the peanut butter to her jelly—the perfect complement to her vibrant personality.
Striking the Perfect Balance
So, what&#39;s the secret to finding the perfect supporter and partner? It&#39;s all about striking the right balance between independence and interdependence. It&#39;s about finding someone who respects your autonomy and celebrates your individuality, while also being there to lend a helping hand and share life&#39;s ups and downs.
In conclusion, the modern woman&#39;s search for HER Ideal man: A supporter and a partner is about finding a partner who&#39;s more than just a lover—they&#39;re a friend, a confidant, and a partner in crime. It&#39;s about building a relationship based on mutual respect, trust, and a whole lot of laughter. So here&#39;s to finding your perfect match—the one who&#39;s got your back no matter what. Cheers to love, laughter, and happily ever after!

WHY HIGH-VALUE WOMEN NEED SUPPORTERS